Jennifer, Paul and Thomas
Our Family
ABOUT THOMAS
We have been blessed with Thomas who is 3 ½ years old. He has added great happiness to our lives. Thomas is a very friendly and content child. Wherever we go, he introduces himself, mostly to children and sometimes adults. While at home, he loves playing with his dog but especially enjoys his train table. He is quite the social butterfly and gets invited to birthday parties and celebrations throughout the year with friends from day care and his six closest cousins that are his age. He spends lots of time with the kids in the neighborhood and his grandparents. He also looks forward to reading books to wind down every night before bed.
A LITTLE SOMETHING ABOUT JEN FROM PAUL
I cannot really say if it was love at first sight or not but, from the very first moment I met Jen, I knew she was special. There was just something about her and we clicked right away. She is intelligent, honest, caring, funny, and beautiful. I enjoyed being with her, and hearing her laugh just filled my heart with joy and sunshine. I had never realized that the company of one person could make a soul so very happy. Until I met Jen, I had no idea what love really was. We have had so much fun and have grown so close to each other in the time we have had together. She is my best friend and is truly my soul mate. Just when I thought I could not possibly love anyone any more than I did Jen, Thomas was born. Seeing Jennifer with my child, the way she nurtured him, loved him, and held him is fantastic. It just amazes me to see what a wonderful mom she is and to watch how she cares for him. I do not know where either of us would be without her. I know, as for myself, I am nothing without her. She has changed my life more than any other person or thing.
Both Jennifer and I grew up with brothers and felt strongly that Thomas should have the same wonderful experience. We tried, for a very long time, to have another child with no luck. It broke my heart to see what Jennifer went through during the IVF treatments with the disappointments and let down she experienced. I felt her pain in way I cannot explain, which made me feel helpless.
Once we decided to adopt, it was like having a huge weight lifted off my shoulders. Jennifer is adopted and knows how special a birth mother is and what a magnificent gift it is to receive an adopted child. It will be wonderful to see it come around full circle. She will be able to give a child the same sort of gift that was given to her by her adoptive mom. You should know that a child could not be in more caring hands than my wife’s and that he or she will be nourished, nurtured, loved and cared for by one of the best Moms around.
A LITTLE SOMETHING ABOUT PAUL FROM JEN
I kissed a lot of toads before I met Paul. We met through an online dating service and I was the one who made the first contact. That night my computer was on the glitz and I said to myself, “I really want to meet Mr. Right so I better have some patience.” I was looking for someone who was fun, laid back, and a genuinely nice guy. Paul was pictured next to his pool with his dog, Molly. His profile was cute and funny. I knew this guy had potential so I emailed him and luckily he responded. He came into my life at a time after experiencing a lot of stress. So I needed someone that would make me laugh and didn’t take life too seriously. Right from the start Paul made me laugh so much it hurt. Paul is very smart, unpretentious, and makes me feel safe. I knew he was a loyal guy when he told me he still has friends that he’s known for more than 30 years. I felt like the luckiest girl in the world when he proposed at a fancy restaurant before we went to see Phantom of the Opera. I hardly paid attention to the play. I just kept picturing our wedding and the family we’d create.
We married one year after meeting. Paul is my best friend. We are truly growing closer and learning about each other all the time. He is very intelligent and has a lot to share with Thomas. Paul takes the time to play with Tom’s trains and games. He also takes Tom out for their weekly ritual of doing errands then going to Dunkin Donuts. When Tom was born and I was recovering from the c-section, Paul jumped right in to help. Ever since then he does not hesitate to do his parental duties. Paul has proved to be a great dad and will be just as wonderful to the next child that enters our life.